What amount of money is appropriate to give for a wedding gift?

My boss is having her wedding soon and I felt bad to decline because I was not going to attend her bridal shower. She didn't register because apparently its Chinese tradition to give money instead of gifts. I think anything less than $100 is inappropriate and rude for a wedding gift, but I feel $100 or more is too much for someone who I only work with. Any advice?

What amount of money is appropriate to give for a wedding gift?
According to the etiquette books, what you can afford is all that's neccessary for the gift of money. That and a nice card will suffice.
Reply:Money in amounts of 8 is good $88 and in a red envolope. It is a little less then a $100 and it will be right in with the Chinese tradition.
Reply:Money weddings are the easiest to handle for me, as I'm use to them, my husband is Italian and that's what they do.





Take your cheque book with you and buy a card, then when you see what your meal is calculate what it costs for the meal and write the cheque to cover the cost of the meal and a token amount on top to help the couple get started in their new life.





As it's a boss and not a friend the token amount does not need to be much just make sure you give at least enough to cover the meal, slip it in the card and on your way to the washroom slip the card in the gift box.
Reply:For close friends and family give $50 to $100.





For bosses, give no more than $20. Why,? because bosses should not expect employees to give too much. Bosses are the ones with money, employees are the ones who are on tight budgets. That's the rationale.
Reply:If she feels that $100 is not enough, then she is absolutely ungrateful. I just got married in March and anyone who gave me a gift of any amount was truely appreciated....including those who just sent a card!!!
Reply:I see your dilemma. I'd go with what the first answerer suggested.
Reply:Give her a card Inviting her out to dinner after she settles in.
Reply:Send a card with a nice, heartfelt message in it as well as 100 dollars.
Reply:Do you know your boss as a friend? If so, you should give what you can comfortably afford. If not, the invitation may just be a ploy to get more gifts,so, why would you want to attend? Save your money and your spare time on people you really care about-and who care about you.





No respected etiquette adviser says that a gift is mandatory-let alone a gift of $100 or more! According to Miss Manners (aka Judith Martin) the only occasions where a gift is mandatory are showers (wedding or baby) and birthday parties for children under 16, where opening the gifts is part of the entertainment.





But, people do expect something at a wedding; if you go, give an amount that is comfortable for you. Unfortunately, your boss knows how much you earn; but unless she is a good friend, she doesn't know all of your expenses.





In short: a good friend won't care if you can't go all out; if the reason you're there is to sweeten the pot, I don't see why you'd want to go at all.

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