What is a traditional condolence gift for a chinese family suffering a miscarraige?

A chinese friend of mine and his wife recently had a miscarriage. What would be an appropriate condolence gift if he is a very traditional chinese?

What is a traditional condolence gift for a chinese family suffering a miscarraige?
i did not know people gave condolence gifts for that. I dont think I would appreciate one...I dont know ive never been there. It seems wierd. How about a card...or am "im sorry for your loss?"
Reply:In traditional Chinese culture, many customs relating to prengnacy serve to protect the pregnant woman and child from 'bad influences' and to avert problems such as miscarriage, stillbirth, death of the mother and imperfections in the newborn. Many in traditional society actually blame the mother for deformities in the newborn as they feel she must have done something to cause the defect.





You might keep this in mind if it was a later miscarriage. Be sensitive to how their culture might view the death of the baby. Reassure the mother all that you can - a sympathy card would be nice that reinforces the idea that "some things are out of our hands" and assures your thoughts and prayers for future blessings.





Best of luck with this.
Reply:I'm afraid that their really isn't an appropriate condolence gift. Although their is something called a traditional Chinese hamper, which is a bouquet of Chinese flowers, and i would try to find something that would make the sorrowing couple happy again. For instance, if they like to go to a play, or the movies, etc. get them seats or tickets to something of that nature to take their mind off of the loss of their unborn. I truly hope that you accept my sincere apologies for your friend, and wish you the best on trying to find a proper gift for them. It is a hard thing to do---- find the right gift for someone..... Good luck and my sincere apologies once again.
Reply:I would definantly give a sympathy gift. One non-culture specific gift that comes to mind is a memory stone--here is a beautiful one I found online http://www.redenvelope.com click on occassion and then sympathy. It's a beautiful stone.

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